
Fresh Air Poet Rachel Eliza Griffiths On Love, Tragedy & ‘Survivor Mode’
Jan 20, 2026
Rachel Eliza Griffiths, a celebrated poet and memoirist, explores profound themes of love and grief in her impactful storytelling. She shares the heart-wrenching experience of losing a close friend on her wedding day to Salman Rushdie. The conversation delves into her journey with Dissociative Identity Disorder and the protective role of dissociation. Griffiths reveals her struggles as a caregiver after Rushdie's stabbing, the complexities of trauma, and the importance of authenticity in her writing. Her reflections offer both vulnerability and resilience.
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Wedding Day Joy Turned To Sudden Loss
- Rachel Eliza Griffiths describes her wedding day turning from joy to devastation when she learned her best friend Aisha died during the celebration.
- She says dissociation kicked in, leaving large parts of that day blacked out from her memory and causing lasting grief.
DID As A Protective, Connected Self
- Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) often develops after severe childhood trauma and functions as a protector for overwhelming experiences.
- Griffiths frames her alters as connected parts of one self, each tied to memories or stages of life and sometimes helpful rather than purely pathological.
From Morning Calm To Survivor Mode
- On Aug. 12, Griffiths learned Salman Rushdie had been stabbed and raced to reach him, falling down stairs in her rush but using that moment to steady herself.
- She says the tumble clarified her focus and pushed her into 'survivor mode' to handle the crisis.










