Is love alone enough to raise a child, or is there a deeper journey parents must undertake? In this episode, Carole Debbané, a seasoned Montessori educator and mother of three, delves into the profound impact of self-reflection on parenting. Carole shares her insights on why understanding your own upbringing is crucial before welcoming a new life and introduces her project, "Becoming a Parent: Is Love Enough?
[1:58] - Becoming a parent: is love enough for Carole Debbané?
[4:51] - what do you need, more than love, to raise your children? You need an inquiry into your own childhood.
[5:50] - Carole's project: 9 months before and 9 months after having a baby, to accompany the parents-to-be to support the child in his development to be.
[8:31] - If your child has a recurring wrong habit that you want to get changed, how do you do?
[10:39] - Carole's MAP of CLARITY : Model, Acceptance, Presence, Conscious connexion, Listening, Awareness, Respect, Independence, Trust, You.
[12:30] - What led Carole to inquire so much about education? Carole has done a lot of healing.
[14:50] - Did Carole feel lonely with her parenting style?
[17:00] - What's the science behind Carole's approach?
[19:00] - Carole's tips, some tools to help parents who wish to educate their children according to Montessori's principles.
[21:30] - How does Carole deal with anxiety in a child?
[23:20] - What do you do when the parents are not on the same page regarding education?
[25:00] - In case of a divorce, how do you avoid fighting in front of the children?
[27:00] - Should we say everything in front of the children?
[28:00] - How do you raise self-confident children?
[30:00] - How do you apply this to teenagers?
[33:18] - Harvest of the Day : if something could be done easily to make the world a better place, what would it be for Carole?
Carole's recommendations :
"The Five Love languages", from Gary Chapman: touch, gift, worlds of appreciation, time, service.
Carole's book : Carole and Nadim Saad : "Kids don't come with a Manual".
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Credits:
- Sound editing by: @lesbellesfrequences
- Technicians in Kaplankaya: Joel Moriasi
- Music by: Chambord
- Artwork by: Davide d'Antonio
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Harvest Series Founders: Burak Öymen and Roman Carel