When Loved Ones Step Away from the Church: Finding True Hope and Peace
Nov 4, 2024
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In this enlightening conversation, Melinda Brown, an author and speaker, shares her personal journey after her child stepped away from the Church. She offers three key truths to navigate the emotional turmoil that accompanies such departures. Melinda emphasizes inclusivity, unconditional love, and the importance of patience in family relationships. The duo also discusses finding support during tough times and the healing power of community wisdom, portraying a hopeful message for all those facing similar challenges.
Parents can find hope by trusting in divine providence and understanding that each individual's spiritual journey is personal and unique.
Shifting language towards more inclusive terms fosters connection and understanding, encouraging open dialogue between family members with differing beliefs.
Deep dives
Navigating the Pain of Divergent Paths
The emotional turmoil experienced by parents when a loved one, particularly a child, chooses a different path often stems from deep-seated fears and anxieties. This struggle is intensified by the perception that time is running out for parents to guide their children back to the church. The discussion highlights the paradox of wanting to encourage eternal progression while simultaneously feeling an unnerving fear of loss or disconnection. The challenge lies in reconciling the urge to control the outcome with the understanding that spiritual journeys are personal and often involve a complex interplay of individual choices and divine oversight.
Finding Peace and Trusting in Divine Timing
Finding peace in the face of a loved one's different choices involves trusting that God has a plan for each individual. The perspective shared emphasizes that divine providence holds every child gently in His hands, allowing parents to relinquish some control over their children's spiritual paths. Trusting in doctrines such as eternal progression and perfection being an eventual journey, rather than an immediate expectation, can offer solace to concerned parents. Embracing this broader view can alleviate anxiety and foster a sense of hope that all will be well in the end.
The Importance of Language and Connection
Shifting the language used to describe those who have left the church can significantly affect how they perceive themselves and their relationship with loved ones still active in the faith. Terms like 'strayed' or 'lost' can carry negative connotations that alienate individuals, while embracing more compassionate and inclusive language can foster connection. Recognizing that the journey of faith is not linear and that different paths can lead to spiritual growth encourages a shift from judgment to understanding in family dynamics. Creating environments where open dialogue and acceptance flourish helps bridge gaps and reassures individuals that they are still valued and loved, regardless of their current situation.
Playing the Long Game in Relationships
Playing the long game is essential when navigating relationships strained by differing beliefs, particularly with children. Parents must focus on maintaining connection and demonstrating unconditional love, rather than attempting to force immediate resolution or change. By recognizing that spiritual journeys often take time and that all experiences contribute to personal growth, parents can find comfort in the idea that their influence continues despite initial setbacks. Celebrating small victories and showing appreciation for positive attributes in loved ones allows for nurturing relationships that endure challenges, cultivating a supportive environment for ongoing dialogue and understanding.
A topic that is on many of our minds is knowing what to do when a child or someone we love takes a different path that leads them away from the Church. We are hopeful that this episode will help alleviate some of the pain and anxiety that we feel when this happens. No matter your family circumstances, this is an important conversation in our efforts to be peacemakers.
Author, speaker, and Magnify contributor Melinda Brown appears as a guest on this episode with Michelle Torsak, Executive Director of Content for Deseret Book. Mindy has experienced her own child stepping away from the Church, and she opens up about her experience and advice. Mindy shares three truths she holds on to when dealing with these anxieties as well as provides practical applications for when we find ourselves in these circumstances. She shares this comforting line, "we are all wanderers."
Click here for a link to Mindy's list of quotes and studies that she has compiled!
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