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Why do couples swear they’ll “do better next time” — and then fall into the exact same fights again?

In this episode, we’re joined by Thais Gibson, leading attachment theory expert and founder of The Personal Development School, to unpack why relationship change often doesn’t stick — and what actually works at the subconscious and nervous system level.

We talk about how attachment styles, core wounds, and nervous system responses quietly drive conflict, shutdown, and disconnection — even when both partners deeply care. Thais shares practical tools for rewiring attachment patterns so couples and individuals can move toward secure attachment, emotional safety, and real connection.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, triggered, or discouraged because insight alone hasn’t changed your relationship, this conversation will give you hope and concrete next steps.

In This Episode, We Cover:

Why insight and “trying harder” don’t change relationship patterns
How attachment wounds form — and why they repeat in adult relationships
The difference between subconscious vs. unconscious patterns
Why couples fight about surface issues (like laundry or tone) when the real pain runs deeper
How anxious, avoidant, and fearful-avoidant attachment styles experience conflict differently
The role of the nervous system in emotional shutdown, defensiveness, and reactivity
A step-by-step tool for rewiring core attachment wounds using memory, imagery, and emotion
Why affirmations often fail — and what works instead
How partners unknowingly validate each other’s deepest fears
What secure attachment actually looks like in real relationships (not perfection)

Key Takeaways:

You’re not broken — your nervous system learned patterns to survive
Most relationship conflict is driven by subconscious meaning, not the present moment
Attachment styles can be rewired, not just managed
Emotional safety changes behavior faster than logic
Secure attachment is a skill, not a personality trait

About Our Guest

Thais Gibson is a globally recognized expert in attachment theory and the founder of The Personal Development School, where she has helped millions of people understand and rewire their relationship patterns. Her work integrates neuroscience, attachment theory, and practical tools for lasting emotional change.

Resources Mentioned:

Free Attachment Style Quiz: https://www.personaldevelopmentschool.com
YouTube: Thais Gibson – Personal Development School
Instagram: @thepersonaldevelopmentschool

Who This Episode Is For

Couples who feel disconnected but still care
Individuals stuck in repeating relationship patterns
Anyone curious about attachment theory beyond surface-level explanations
Partners who want real tools — not just insight

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