Sober Cast: An (unofficial) Alcoholics Anonymous Podcast AA Topic: Step 4 - Fear and Sex (Bob D)
Jan 9, 2026
In this engaging discussion, Bob D, a seasoned recovering alcoholic from Las Vegas, delves into Step 4, specifically focusing on fear and sex. He shares insights from his 1978 sobriety journey and highlights how fear often masquerades as normalcy in everyday life. Bob emphasizes the importance of self-inventory in overcoming fear-driven behaviors, urging listeners to embrace emotional surrender. He also explores the impact of selfishness in relationships and underscores that true healing comes from serving others, ultimately reminding us that faith should guide our actions.
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Fear Was The Invisible Driver
- Bob D realized fear was everywhere in his life and not just occasional worry.
- He discovered fear drove his behaviors, resentments, and self-centeredness.
Fear Creates Its Own Outcomes
- Fear often becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy through subtle ego maneuvers.
- The ego maneuvers change attitudes and actions until the feared outcome occurs.
Possessiveness Drove A Relationship Apart
- Bob D described how fear made him possessive and controlling in an early sober relationship.
- His anxiety-driven actions ultimately pushed the partner away.
