Between Sundays with The Chandlers How to Build a Marriage That Lasts
Jan 20, 2026
Join Matt and Lauren as they dive into the ups and downs of their first seven years of marriage. They share candid stories about unmet expectations and the journey of healing through grace. The episode explores important themes like patience, covenant love, and the balance of depth and humor in marriage. Practical tips are offered for both wives and husbands, including exercises to rebuild respect. It’s a heartfelt conversation aimed at encouraging lasting relationships through faith and understanding.
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Marriage Exposes Unresolved Longings
- Marriage can act like a second form of salvation by exposing unresolved longings and brokenness in each spouse.
- Expecting a spouse to complete or heal you hides the need for Christ-centered sanctification and personal work.
Choose Covenant Over Contract
- Avoid marrying with a contract mindset that expects reciprocity as a transaction.
- Pursue covenant thinking that endures unmet expectations and points to God's faithfulness.
Perfectionism Shaped Shrinking Back
- Lauren describes growing up as a firstborn who chased perfection and equated worth with performance.
- That pattern made her shrink back in marriage when she felt she couldn't 'get the A' Matt expected.
