Why do New Year’s resolutions fall apart so fast for ADHD brains?

What if the problem isn’t motivation, but how we define success?

In this Attention Different roundtable, Stephen Tonti, Aaron Smith, and Devin Pitts-Rogers get honest about goals, follow-through, and why “trying harder” rarely works for neurodivergent adults.

This wide-ranging, candid conversation digs underneath surface-level habits and into what actually drives consistency: values, identity-based goals, energy management, and focusing on process over outcomes. From abandoned language apps and inconsistent gym routines to bass lessons, injuries, and unrealistic expectations, the group explores why intrinsic motivation isn’t reliable and what does help.

✨ Highlights:

✔️ Why process goals work better than outcome goals

✔️ How values and identity shape sustainable habits

✔️ Energy management vs. time management

✔️ Why perfectionism quietly kills momentum

✔️ Practical tools like habit stacking, accountability, and flexible structure

✔️ Why failure isn’t the opposite of progress—it’s part of it

This episode is for anyone who’s ever thought:
“I know what I want to do… so why can’t I follow through?”

🎧 Listen now and rethink goals, growth, and success on your terms.

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