Date Your Wife Quickie, Quickie, Porn Star | Date Your Wife | Ep 002
- Garrett and Danielle share their backstories behind sex, not having sex with each other until marriage due to a strict Christian religious background.
- Regardless of the type of approach that both were taught, they found that they discovered sex together, creating a rhythm with each other, taking a very different approach with their own children.
QUESTION: Which parent should be having the talk with their children? Should it be gender specific?
Point #2: Surrendering to Tough Conversations About Sex in Marriage
- Even after marriage, the topic of sex isn't always the easiest conversation to have, especially when approaching it from a male and female perspective, not understanding the reason behind why one partner wants or doesn't want sex.
- There's a sense of entitlement that puts a tension in the relationship until there's a level of comfort to own your own shit and be more chilled out about what it is that you want, respecting the other's differing views at the same time.
QUESTION: Do you find it's hard to talk about sex with your spouse? Why?
Point #3: The Magical Formula
- Garrett would go into pouty asshole mode to become standoffish after not having the entitlement of sex that he expects to come with marriage to also be felt by Danielle.
- Her solution after a decade of rejection was that porn star sex is necessary every 3rd time they have sex, spending time to connect with each other on a deeper level without feeling like it has to happen every single time they wanted to connect.
QUESTION: What needs do you think your partner feels is necessary for you? What do you think their needs are?
Challenge of the Week: Danielle's Tip for Women:
Find your magical formula in which everyone is happy.
Garrett's Tip for Men:The story you're telling yourself about how your wife sees sex may be simply that: a story. You're going to have to change your story and investigate it to give you the tools that you need to have a better approach to get what you want.
Quote of the Day:
"Every couple has their formula to combat against the rejection factor that inevitably comes within marriage, and I could see that Garrett was putting in the effort the way that he knew how, which came to a willingness to go all in. If you have really good sex, they're not thinking about porn or another woman but they're thinking about YOU, putting their focus on having a good time."
--Danielle K White