Ask Aunty: Family matriarch ready to hand over the crown

If you're the family matriarch or patriarch but you're very ready to hand over your crown to the next generation…. what do you do if the heirs apparent have run for the hills?

Letter-writer Lydia and her husband are in their 70s, and slowing down a bit. So they think it seems fair that, after all those years of managing everything, their children should do some of the heavy lifting.