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What is Betrayal Blindness? With Dr. Jennifer Freyd

Jul 13, 2023
Dr. Jennifer Freyd, renowned researcher on betrayal, discusses abuse, lies, and toxic behavior, shedding light on "betrayal blindness." They explore the impact of betrayal trauma on mental and physical health, the enduring effects of narcissistic abusive relationships, and the reasons why individuals stay in toxic relationships. They also discuss the concept of betrayal blindness in relation to relational cycles and its destructive impact on relationships. Focus is placed on recognition, support, and self-compassion as crucial elements in healing from betrayal.
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  • Betrayal blindness is a survival mechanism that prevents survivors of abuse from recognizing the betrayal perpetrated by someone they trust.
  • DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) is a manipulative tactic used by abusers to deflect blame and responsibility onto their victims.

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Betrayal Blindness and Its Impact on Victims of Abuse

Betrayal blindness describes the phenomenon of survivors of abuse being unable to recognize or acknowledge the betrayal perpetrated by someone they trust. Dr. Jennifer Fried, an expert on betrayal, coined the term to explain our inability to see betrayal when the perpetrator is someone we depend on and believe in. Betrayal trauma refers to mistreatment by someone the victim trusts, which can have severe negative effects on mental and physical health. Betrayal blindness is a survival mechanism that allows individuals to stay engaged in a relationship that they perceive as necessary for their survival, even when mistreated. It can lead to self-blame and shame, as victims often blame themselves for staying in abusive relationships. Recognizing betrayal and developing healthy boundaries is crucial for healing and protecting oneself from ongoing mistreatment.

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