Dominic Scaffidi is a certified executive coach dedicated to awakening greatness in individuals. In this insightful conversation, he explores the intricacies of self-discovery and the relationship between creativity and humanity. Dominic emphasizes how our questions shape our understanding and the balance between financial success and true fulfillment. He discusses the law of attraction as a fluid process, urging listeners to align with their true essence. A moving story completes the dialogue, highlighting the importance of loving being human.
The exploration of self-identity through the layers of true self, unconditioned self, and conditioned self fosters personal liberation and authenticity.
Distinguishing between true desires and those shaped by societal conditioning encourages a deeper inquiry into personal motivations and authentic experiences.
A shift from efforting to allowing in goal pursuit empowers individuals to attract their true desires without unnecessary struggle.
Deep dives
The Essence of Being Human
The discussion centers on the concept of 'loving being human,' suggesting that the essence of humanity lies in creativity and self-exploration. It is emphasized that the relationship individuals have with themselves changes as they delve into personal development, ultimately leading to a more profound understanding of their true essence. This exploration fosters a deeper connection with one's 'true self,' allowing individuals to recognize their vast potential beyond the conditioned identity shaped by societal expectations. Acknowledging these layers of self—including the true self and the conditioned self—enables a shift towards embracing one's authentic nature.
Layers of the Self
There are five layers of self discussed: the true self, the unconditioned self, the conditioned self, the imagined self, and the presented self. The journey of personal development often involves working on the outward layers, such as the conditioned and imagined selves, but the true transformative work lies in reconnecting with the true self that exists beneath these layers. This exploration should be seen as an opportunity for love and understanding rather than mere self-improvement; acknowledging all layers allows for a more harmonious relationship with oneself. Recognizing that the imagined self is often a response to external conditioning can lead to personal liberation and authenticity.
Understanding True Desires
The podcast highlights the distinction between true desires arising from the unconditioned self and those that emerge from conditioned responses to societal pressures. True desires reflect an inherent longing for self-expression and connectivity without any fear or need for validation. In contrast, desires rooted in conditioning often stem from compensatory strategies to achieve external validation or material success, which can lead to dissatisfaction. This distinction prompts a deeper inquiry into personal motives, paving the way for pursuing authentic experiences that resonate with one’s true nature.
The Role of Allowance in Creation
A significant insight involves the shift from a mindset focused on efforting and actively pursuing goals to one centered on allowing and receiving. This change in perspective fosters an understanding that the act of creation is not about forcing outcomes but rather being open and adept at receiving what is already available through aligned energy. Emphasizing self-awareness allows individuals to recognize their inherent power to attract and be in tune with their true desires without unnecessary struggle. By shifting from resistance to acceptance, people can align more closely with their intended experiences and deepen their engagement with life.
Embracing the Full Spectrum of Experience
The conversation touches on the idea that happiness should not be equated with constant bliss but rather acknowledging and embracing all human experiences, including pain and loss. Recognizing that every moment contributes to the richness of life can enhance appreciation for both joyful and challenging experiences alike. The narrative shares a poignant story about coping with loss, suggesting that even in sorrow, there exists the beauty of love and connection, vital for life's journey. This understanding encourages the acceptance of both highs and lows, promoting a holistic view of life that values the exploration of one’s emotions.
Creating Success
Originally recorded for The Loving Being Human Podcast, with the launch of that podcast on hold, shared here so that the thousands of listeners of The Coaching Life Podcast can enjoy this amazing conversation with Dominic Scaffidi.
In this episode we discuss:
* Our relationship to being human
* Self creation and self discovery
* How our questions reveal our understanding
* Financial and material success
* The law of attraction and the laws of physics
And, of course, what do we mean by Loving Being Human? Dominic shares a very moving story that completes our conversation, in answer to that question.
Here’s a little more about Dominic:
Dominic Scaffidi’s purpose is to “awaken greatness.” As a certified executive coach, he fulfils this purpose by partnering with individuals to point them back toward the unlimited potential and possibility of who they really are. By accessing their own innate wisdom, clients are supported to take on important professional and personal goals.
In 2008, following a 20-year corporate career, Dominic founded HR Possibilities to provide three core services:
1) Individual Executive Coaching for senior leaders, entrepreneurs and high performing individuals.
2) Team Coaching for senior executive teams
3) Training for leaders and people managers to learn “how to be a Great Coach rather than a good boss.”
Dominic has worked with leading edge, global organizations across a variety of industries. He is a Professional Certified Coach (PCC) credentialed through the International Coach Federation and has been awarded two Prism awards for excellence in coaching within organizations. He is also grounded in the Three Principles and certified as a transformative coach through Michael Neill’s coach academy.
You can find out more about Dominic at
https://www.hrpossibilities.com
and
https://www.linkedin.com/in/dominicscaffidi
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