Gender, Queerness, and the Myth of Normal

This week, Cass and Ciarra sit down for an unfiltered conversation on heteronormativity, gender identity, and what it means to build intimacy and relationships outside of the boxes we were handed. From first crushes to unlearning shame, they explore how societal expectations around sexuality, gender performance, and “normal” love stories often leave people disconnected from themselves and each other.

Together, they unpack how queerness can be a portal to truth, how grief and growth often arrive hand-in-hand, and why challenging the “default” isn’t about rebellion—it’s about self-acceptance and survival. Whether you’re questioning, unlearning, or just starting to explore these ideas, this episode invites you to slow down, get curious, and remember: you’re not alone.