What is it like to have intrusively strong romantic feelings? What are the causes, and what techniques can improve it?
Vynn and Francis interview life coach Michelle Akin about what it is like to experience limerence. This is a common, yet not talked about, obsessive love addiction which can repeatedly break relationships.
What is the difference between limerence and love? How do limerent people behave with their object of desire? What does it feel like inside their body?
The conversation goes into the possible causes of limerence, both innate and relating to attachment in childhood. Michelle describes different methods of therapy and group programmes that can help with it.
How do people visualise the object of their limerence? What is the impact of attending to negative traits of the object of limerence on bodily feelings of despair?
To finish, Michelle describes how many people messaged her directly when she posted on social media about limerence, and advice she gave them.
Timestamps:
01:15 What does limerence feel like?
02:45 Is it a physical experience?
03:22 Sex and Love Addicts
05:57 The commonness of limerence
07:44 Dorothy Tennov the coiner of limerence
11:00 The difference between limerence and love
13:56 Is limerence a type of crush
17:17 Anxiety in limerence
18:21 What causes limerence?
21:56 Vibrational Harmonic Healing
22:30 Limerence therapy specialist
26:20 Limerent connection as healing the father wound
28:10 New friendships
28:27 Visualising the objects of limerence
32:10 How to handle limerence
34:16 Number of people being impacted by limerence
Show Links:
- Limerence: What Is It And How Do We Let It Go? - video by Heidi Priebe
- Michelle’s AMA about limerence
- Michelle’s Twitter account
- Inconvenient Epiphanies - Michelle’s substack
- Dorothy Tennov - Coiner of Limerence
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