Beat Your Genes Podcast

278: Sexual disgust, Meaningful and authentic esteem dynamic in a pair bond

Mar 31, 2022

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Is Ton the Standard?

Planting Lots of Tubers for Extra Dogs?

Is Sexual Disgust the Antidote to Everything?

Women's Disdisgust Is Big for Women

The Acam's Razor Isn't the Right Gyye

I'm at Least a Seven S a Four, and Yet She Demonstrates It.

Is My X Cheating on Me?

I'll Keep Taking the Train Into the City and Cheating on You Everyritno, Ya, It Does.

The Cost Benefit Analysis of Your Personality

Your Feelings Are Not Subject to You Changing Them

Are You Trying to Fix Your Relationship?

I'm in a Situation Where I Feel Like I've Been Hit by This Individual

Are You in a Relationship?

Is There a Misunderstanding?

Is There a Conflict of Interest in Your Relationship?

I Just Did It One Day

Is There an Issue of Abandonment in Male Female Relations?

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In today's show, the Dr's discuss:

can you illuminate us a bit about the nature of sexual disgust. I am currently seeing a man who is very much in love with me and is a good match for me in general. I like him very much and can imagine him as a future partner. However, I hate being touched by him. I feel so grossed out by it,it doesn't turn me on at all and so I avoid physical intimacy with him. Is there any way to get over this or should I just quit?
My ex that I was with for one year that's 60 pounds overweight and objectively a 4 cheated on me even though I'm 108 pounds with about a .7 hip to waist ratio and at least a 7. Why would this happen? I dated him because I thought he would appreciate how much more attractive than him I was and thus treat me well and not cheat on me at the least! The girls he has dated before me and cheated on me with were less attractive than me. He even said they were only 'okay'. He told me he makes seven figures but I estimate it to be $200,00 which is still great so maybe that's why he thinks he's so great and better than me? He showed me the ring he was going to propose to me with as a last ditch effort to get me to not break up with him which was apparently $80,000. My guess is that it's actually around $15,000. Other than that, he doesn't seem interested in marriage in general even though he's 41. Is he just naturally a short-term mater unless he's insanely rewarded? If he really valued me wouldn't he not risk losing me over some random girls? Please tell me what I'm doing wrong and what's going on, I have an open loop about this and I feel like I can't stop thinking about this until I understand every small detail so I can avoid making the same mistakes in the future.
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Host: Nathan Gershfeld

Interviewee: Doug Lisle, Ph.D. and Jen Howk, Ph.D.

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Intro & outro song: City of Happy Ones · Ferenc Hegedus