Entanglement: When transformation meets family and friends [Short]

The most profound effects of transformation do not always result from the peak experience or being on the mountaintop but in the coming down and integrating. As we recouple our 'new' self with our existing relationships. To be sure, we're very thankful for the familiarity of and old friend or our parents. But, as we contend with ancestral trauma and stuckness within ourselves, we may become disheartened to percieve everything around us as staying the same. This belief that everything's staying the same is re-enforced by the world around us. However, it is a delusion. Change is happening in historically unprecedented ways at this time and we are all deeply entangled with it and the more than human world. The changes within us affect one another in ways we don't understand. This is an encouraging insight, and we never know the full range of the impact of our internal shifts have everyone we're connected to.   

With that being said, there's a world of struggle waiting for you if you're expecting or needing your family/friends to change in the way you have. I've been there. Perhaps its a necessary learning curve to struggle with this but where I've arived now with experience is recognising that change is happening, but not because we want or need it to. People's life journeys are long. Some karma takes years or decades to be worked out. We cannot force this but we can rest in the knowledge of our entanglement and become better witnesses to one another as we are. We can be open to the transformative potential in one another merely by attending to that person as a thou, as a mystery and not as the fixed object they believe they are. In this attentive witnessing, we paradoxically end up give more affordance to their transformation.