In this engaging discussion, evolutionary biologist Kit Opie and biological anthropologist Katie Starkweather dive into the complexities of human relationships. They explore whether monogamy is a social construct or part of our evolutionary history. Opie shares insights from primate mating systems, while Starkweather reveals how different cultures approach non-monogamy. The chemistry of love is also unpacked, showcasing how neurochemicals like oxytocin influence bonding, shedding light on the age-old question of whether one partner is truly better than many.
Monogamy in humans evolved as a strategy for effective childrearing in response to environmental changes during early human history.
Cultural diversity in relationship structures, including polyandry, highlights that non-monogamous arrangements have persisted due to economic and social factors.
Deep dives
The Evolution of Monogamy
Monogamy in humans has evolved as a strategy to effectively raise children, particularly due to changes in early human environments caused by climate shifts. As habitats became savannahs, the necessity for larger social groupings for safety led females to require the help of males in raising offspring, resulting in a preference for monogamous relationships. Research suggests that earlier forms of human mating involved non-monogamous behaviors similar to chimps and bonobos; however, the challenges of raising children in larger groups prompted a shift towards long-term pair bonding. This monogamous structure appears to have been the most feasible strategy for successful childrearing, despite contemporary individuals often grappling with fidelity issues.
Cultural Variations in Relationship Structures
Human relationships are highly diverse, with instances of both monogamy and non-monogamy evident across various cultures worldwide. Research indicates that while polyandry—where one woman has multiple husbands—is less common, it exists in numerous societies, particularly in regions like Nepal and Tibet, challenging the notion that it is a rarity in human history. Economic factors contribute significantly to the persistence of non-monogamous relationships, as women can gain security through multiple partnerships in environments where male resources are scarce. Despite the potential advantages of multiple partners, the complexities and emotional labor involved often render monogamous structures more prevalent.
The Neurochemistry of Relationships
Research on prairie voles has revealed insights into the neurochemical underpinnings of monogamous behavior, particularly the roles of oxytocin and dopamine in bonding. While oxytocin facilitates social bonding and is linked to relationship satisfaction, dopamine influences the motivation to seek connections and can vary based on whether a bond is formed or not. The ability of humans to form strong emotional connections appears influenced by similar neurochemical processes, with oxytocin promoting attachment and dopamine managing the desire for new relationships. This neurochemical framework may explain why many individuals opt for monogamy, as the emotional effort required for navigating multiple partnerships can prove overwhelming.
CrowdScience listener Alina is in a relationship with a polyamorous partner and is very happy with this arrangement, which got her thinking – why is monogamy so often the norm in human societies?
Presenter Caroline Steel goes on an anthropological odyssey to figure out where this drive to find a single partner - and stick with them - comes from.
What can science tell us about how human relationships developed, and whether having one or many partners is more 'natural'?
Evolutionary biologist Kit Opie of the University of Bristol joins us at London Zoo to help us understand the mating systems of our closest primate relatives.
To find out how polygamy developed in some parts of the world we speak to anthropologist Katie Starkweather of the University of Illinois Chicago.
And we learn about the chemistry of bonding from Sarah Blumenthal at Emory University, who explains how the brains of prairie voles may give us clue about the neurochemicals which shape human relationships.
Presenter: Caroline Steel
Producers: Priya Sippy, Ben Motley and Imaan Moin
Editor: Cathy Edwards
Production Co-ordinator: Ishmael Soriano
Studio Manager: Steve Greenwood
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