Rabbi Daniel Lapin Ep 284 | Want To Just Be Yourself? OK, Pay The Price!
May 10, 2025
Is being your true self detrimental to your marriage? Discover how personal identity evolves over time and the balance between authentic self and relationship commitments. Delve into the impact of educational shifts, like the disappearance of shop classes, on identity and practical skills. Explore the connection between Jewish beliefs and political views, and gain insights into confidence in dating. Learn the importance of self-discovery while navigating societal expectations.
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Engaged Man's Desire To Be Himself
- A man engaged and advised by Rabbi Daniel Lapin wanted to "get back to just being myself" after marriage.
- He described habits like cursing, dressing sloppily, and lax hygiene that he considered authentic but stressful to hide.
No Going Back To Old Self
- Rabbi Lapin explains that you cannot revert to an old version of yourself after marriage; the past self is "dead."
- Marriage initiates real growth, changing one's identity permanently through experiences and actions.
Actions Shape Your Identity
- Each action and experience leaves an indelible mark on us that shapes us for better or worse.
- Our personalities and automatic responses evolve based on accumulated behaviors and experiences.