The Mom Life Crisis with Emily McAllister

Aug 22, 2022

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Meet Emily McAllister

Emily McAllister, my dear sister from the same mister, is an incredible photographer, writer, and truth-teller. Emily is a creative, entrepreneur, mama in recovery to two adorable girls, and soon-to-be author. Emily is a Boston-native living in Southern California, where she owns her photography business, Emily McAllister Photography. Emily also works as a freelance writer and an occasional public speaker. Emily's writing has been featured on Scary Mommy, The Dad, What's Up Moms, Huffington Post, Buzzfeed, Love What Matters, and more. Emily has been a guest on several podcasts where she shares everything from her recovery story, her experience with maternal mental health, as well as her entrepreneurial journey that led her to professional photography. She is currently working on her first non-fiction book but in the meantime, shares her sassy, sometimes racy, and often hilarious thoughts on Twitter @Emily_tweets.

Feeling Like a Misfit & Coloring Outside The Lines

Emily McAllister talked about her inherent wiring to follow her own rules and color outside the lines. I've seen these self-starting and non-rule following traits in entrepreneurs as major assets. While this didn't feel like a strength growing up, she later learned that her creativity, resilience, and authenticity led Emily to start her own successful business. She had to follow her messy, nonlinear journey and truly be her 'You-est You' to find her own genuine path. If you also tend to color outside the lines and go against the grain or zig where others zag, know that this is often your greatest gift. Follow it and embrace all of yourself.

Laughter As Medicine

Laughter helped Emily McAllister heal traumas from the past as they related to substance abuse and addiction. She learned that by sharing her deepest, darkest stories with others, a healing happened in that true connection. Today, in addition to being a photographer, Emily is a speaker and loves helping other women to share their stories. One of her biggest messages-don't take yourself or your challenges too seriously. Learn to laugh with and at yourself, and you'll start the inner healing process in a way you couldn't have imagined.

The Mom Life Crisis

This is really about feeling lost - both in losing herself to motherhood and her own identity - to finding a whole new sense of self. From breakdown to breakthrough, the mom life crisis has been humbling for Emily, and she shares how this period of being lost and overwhelmed can lead you back to a stronger form of yourself. The trick is to stay with the feelings, to feel your feelings fully, and allow what's next to arise naturally.

You're Only As Sick As Your Secrets

Emily McAllister's biggest lesson to share is so powerful. In essence, when we hide parts of ourselves or our truth, we are allowing shame to take over and disconnect us from real connection. Sharing the secrets, stories, and situations you've held in shame will change your life. This is much of what has helped Emily in her own recovery journey, along with taking ownership of her life and realizing that we have a part in all aspects of our life movie. A reminder, life isn't happening to you; it's happening for you. In sum, it's about owning your sh*t and eating donuts (if you so desire).

Final Thoughts

Emily McAllister is a perfect example of how to wrangle mom life with grace even on the days you want to crawl back in bed (because we ALL do and that's ok) and how coloring outside the lines is what makes you uniquely perfect. To use that gift to share your dark secret, to shine the light on them so that you, and others, realize they aren't so scary after all.

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