"I realize now that I came to astrology to heal shame, though I didn't know that at the time. I had never really put the word shame on my experience. But I now see that shame was the baseline of my personality. I had an apology for my existence somewhere in any conversation, any project, any situation.
Whether it was the perceived too-gruesome parts of me I was apologizing for, or even for the perceived too-perfect parts of me. I just wanted to apologize to everyone. "I'm sorry I exist." But back then I didn't know that what I was swimming in was a sea of shame.
It feels really foreign to me to talk about that now. It's not that I don't have shame that I notice. It's just that now I notice it because I'm not so immersed in it that I can't even see it. I tap on new layers of it all the time. And I know what to do to help myself and to resource myself.
What I see in working with other people is that shame is the thing that's always present. Shame is the thing we're all carrying around. Whether we think that word is something we associate with or not. Maybe you call it the inner critic. Maybe you call it self-sabotage. Maybe you're attached to the word guilt or regret or self-mistrust. To me, it's all a shame problem."
For astrology to be helpful, it has to help us with shame, because we cannot vision exciting futures when we see life through a shame lens. Unshaming the Signs is a framework for calling in this approach to speaking astrology. It's a healing-focused approach to astrology.
I hope you enjoy it and find it helpful. Let me know what you think!
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Podcast music Jonathan Koe. Podcast art Angela George.