How To Break Free Of Your Patterns w/ Dr. Tony Iezzi (#86)

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Tony Iezzi, clinical psychologist, professor, and co-author of Re-Enactments. We discuss how to break free of the invisible patterns that shape our lives. With over 35 years of trauma treatment experience, Dr. Iezzi helps us understand how seemingly small triggers (like being ignored or corrected) can activate deep-rooted emotional reactions tied to our earliest relationships.

We get into:

•what reenactments are, and how to spot them in real time

•why our reactions often have more to do with history than the moment

•how trauma can linger as themes like "incompetence," "worthlessness," or "lack of control"

•why talk therapy alone often isn't enough

•how to reparent yourself and reshape your inner voice

•how couples can start talking differently to break old cycles

We also talk about perfectionism, addiction, immigrant households, the myth of 10-step healing, and why learning to respond — not just react — is the true path to change.

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🔗 Resources from Dr. Iezzi:

•Website: https://www.tonyiezzi.com

•Book: Re-Enactments — available via his site

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🎧 Know More Know Less —

Listen on:

•Apple Podcasts:

https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/know-more-know-less/id1652659219

•Spotify:

https://open.spotify.com/show/2fxCXp5AlfajmcTgvSWSGl?si=87be920940534299

•YouTube (Full episodes & clips):

https://youtu.be/ntWpH97LXog