Does life ever feel like an endless to-do list? Like if you could just wake up tomorrow with a little more discipline, you’d finally master your schedule, achieve balance, and feel… enough?

On today's episode, Oliver Burkeman (bestselling author of Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for Mortals) and Kate unravel some of the beautiful lies we cling to about time and control, the fantasy of hyper-efficiency, and what it might look like to embrace the limits that make us who we are.

In this conversation, Kate and Oliver discuss:

Some of the most common self-help myths that stand in our way
Why the relentless pursuit of self-improvement often leaves us feeling empty, anxious, and overwhelmed.
How embracing our limits can lead to more contentment

This is a conversation about limits—not as something to overcome, but as a doorway to something richer, deeper, and (dare I say) more human.

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Katie Couric on The Courage to Try (and Wisdom to Know When to Let Go)
Susan David on Toxic Positivity
Samantha Irby on Doing My Best (Life Now)
Elizabeth Gilbert on Why Your Creativity Matters

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