Psychology In Seattle Podcast Infidelity In Therapy (2016 Rerun)
Oct 9, 2025
Explore the intricate dynamics of infidelity in therapy. Discover modern definitions that include cyber relationships and how secrets erode trust. Delve into the impact of cultural attitudes on disclosure and the ethical challenges therapists face. Learn about restoring intimacy through techniques like 'funerals for affairs' and the importance of timing in forgiveness. Unpack the psychological motivations behind cheating and discuss the effects of substance use on impulse control. It's a thought-provoking dive into a sensitive topic.
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Modern Definition Of Infidelity
- Infidelity now includes non-marital, same-sex, and internet behaviors because betrayal centers on secrets and trust violations.
- Couples often define what counts as infidelity, so context and agreement matter more than rigid rules.
Explore Boundaries Before Risky Choices
- If a partner considers risky sexual outlets, explore safer, legal alternatives and clear boundaries first.
- Ask partners to discuss and consent to arrangements rather than assume secrecy will avoid harm.
Use The Cybersex Checklist Wisely
- Use the nine cybersex criteria to screen problematic patterns like secrecy, preoccupation, and jeopardized relationships.
- Interpret results within cultural and personal context rather than applying thresholds rigidly.
