Mutual Understanding Matt Bateman, Aaron Stupple and I talk kids and freedom
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Nov 14, 2025 
Join Montessori educator Matt Bateman, founder of Montessorium, and author Aaron Stupple, a non-coercive parenting advocate, as they dive into the complexities of freedom in parenting. They discuss treating children as moral agents and the philosophical roots of autonomy. Aaron challenges traditional parenting questions, while Matt emphasizes ‘freedom within limits’ like routines and school. They debate the role of persuasion and authentic reasons behind behavior. Their engaging conversation balances practical approaches with the importance of respecting children's autonomy.
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Line-Drawing Is A Misleading Question
- Aaron argues the question 'where to draw the line' in parenting is nonsensical and should be abandoned.
- He claims freedom must be central because people generate reasons internally and learn best within freedom.
Montessorium School Example
- Matt describes founding Montessorium and designing schools with Montessori principles.
- He positions his schools as offering high freedom while still setting practical limits.
Freedom Is Central To Learning
- Aaron: freedom sits at the center of epistemology for children because reasons are internally generated.
- Coercion only raises the cost of exploration; it does not create real understanding.
