The Private School Leader Podcast Episode 22: How To Respond To The Death Of A Student
I got the phone call that every school leader dreads.
One of my students had died. It was a Wednesday night in September, 1998. I got a call that one of my 9th Grade students, a 14 year old boy, had died. We will call him Caleb.
Caleb and his 13 year old friend were playing at a park near his home. Tragically, they were also playing with a gun. Caleb’s friend was not a student at my school. Caleb’s friend was holding the gun. The gun went off and Caleb was killed instantly.
Nothing could have prepared me for what happened over the next few hours, the next few days, the next few months after Caleb was killed. The next morning, all three local TV news stations had their vans sitting in our school’s parking lot. Reporters from both major newspapers were there too. Our HS students and our teachers looked like zombies as they walked through the front doors of the school.
That awful phone call happened almost 25 years ago. As I look back, I can see that we did a really good job taking care of our students and staff. We handled things really well. But, that was not because we were ready. We did not have a crisis management team, we did not have a plan. What we had were a lot of really smart people that jumped into action and I believe that we got a lot of help from God.
One of my teachers has a saying, “We were lucky, not good.” When Caleb died, we handled things very well. But, we were lucky, not good. I hope that you never have to deal with the death of a student or a staff member, but I want to help you to be super prepared. I want for you to have a plan and then pray that you NEVER, EVER need to use the plan.
On today’s episode, I am going to teach you 10 Steps to responding to the death of a student:
- Establish a School Crisis Team
- Create a Plan in Advance
- Gather Facts
- Notify Staff, Students and Parents
- Deploy Mental Health Professionals
- Equip your Teachers
- Prepare For Media Coverage
- Funerals, Spontaneous Memorials and Memorials
- Special Circumstances (suicide, drug overdose)
- Conduct an After Action Review
I pray that you will NEVER have to use this plan. That said, now you will be ready if you do. Thank you for listening to the podcast and thank you for making a difference in the lives of the kids at your school.
Mark Minkus
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