Healing Conversations for Men Who Have Sex with Men Kink Awareness & The Practice of Safer Sex — Philip McCabe
Philip McCabe is a Speaker, Health Educator, and Addiction Professional to LGBTQ communities. He is currently the President at NALGAP inc, which is the National Association for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender Addiction Professionals and their Allies. Philip often speaks on the topics of sexual health, consent, and what it means to safely explore your kinks as someone in recovery. Philip shares what you need to know about BDSM, kink play, and some of the warning signs to be aware of.
TAKEAWAYS:
[1:35] How did Philip get involved in kink awareness?
[5:25] Philip defines what BDSM is.
[9:40] Is kink or BDSM problematic behavior?
[11:55] Where do you draw the line between kink behavior vs. domestic violence or abuse?
[13:40] How can you practice BDSM safely?
[15:35] What do the phrases, ‘Safe, Sane, and Consensual’ and ‘Risk, Aware, Consensual’ mean?
[17:35] What precautions does someone need to take into account when engaging in these activities?
[21:50] How can a newly sober person regain an interesting and engaging sex life?
[26:40] How can people in this lifestyle talk to their healthcare providers about it?
[31:55] Therapists, addiction counselors, social workers, and more need to have a better understanding of the range of human sexuality.
RESOURCES:
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
QUOTES:
- “Like any other part of the LGBTQ community, we are still evolving and we still have to learn how to support each other.”
- “If the partner is not willing to have a conversation or not willing to have a discussion with you about what your boundaries are or limits are, that’s a red flag to me.”
- “It takes time and I think people get impatient. We sometimes ask people to do a 90-day abstinence from masturbation just to reboot and resettle.”
- “Just because there is a mark on the body, we don’t want to jump to the conclusion that it was domestic violence.”