When Working Memory Looks Like Defiance

As part of the ongoing Executive Function series on the podcast, this week's episode dives into the essential (and often misunderstood) skill of working memory—how it impacts neurodivergent learners and what we can do to help.

If your child loses track of multi-step instructions, forgets a task mid-way, or gets overwhelmed by routines, you’re not alone—and it’s not simply forgetfulness. It’s about the way their brain processes and stores information moment-to-moment.

Key Takeaways:

• Make Instructions Visible & Bite-Sized: Use a Working Memory Command Center (think: whiteboards, sticky notes, rhythm cards) to externalize each step of a routine. Break down big tasks into 3-5 micro-steps and post them where your child needs to see them.
• Create a Personalized Micro Prompt Library: Build a set of actionable cue cards (“Write the date,” “Circle the operation,” “Put away 10 things”) specific to your child’s daily routines. This makes starting and completing tasks less overwhelming and more achievable.
• Teach Back & Retrieval Practice: Use playful strategies like the 30-second teach-back and “look away retrieval” games to help kids practice recalling information, building both confidence and working memory muscle—without stress.

If you want hands-on ideas you can implement today (including one-week action steps!), this episode and the free Executive Function Quick Start Guide are for you. Let’s reframe the narrative: your child isn’t lazy or forgetful—they just need tools that meet their neurodivergent brains where they are.

 

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