775 - Deconstructing Personality: Breaking the Habit of Being Who You’re Not

In this episode, I reconnect with Mark Weiss, who originally joined me for Episode 772 of the podcast after accepting my challenge to read The Four Agreements and go deep with its wisdom. What follows is an unfiltered, soul-level conversation about the journey of deconstructing personality—of learning to recognize and dismantle the masks we’ve unconsciously worn for years.

Mark vulnerably shares how he’s been shifting his relationship with judgment, ownership, habit, and personal integrity. He talks about how reading the book helped him respond more calmly in his marriage, honor his word to himself, and begin dismantling the layers of identity shaped by childhood, culture, and survival mechanisms.

We explore the difference between habits and choices, the power of conscious awareness, and the invitation to see deconstruction not as something “hard,” but as a sacred adventure in returning to the truth of who we are.

This episode is for anyone who’s ever said, “I want to change, but it’s so hard,” or who’s been caught in cycles of guilt and inertia. It’s a reminder that every time we wake up to a patterned response, we have the power to chisel away another layer that doesn’t belong.

What if your transformation doesn’t need to be heavy?

What if it could be a joyful unraveling?

This conversation is proof that it can.