Feeling like a second-choice friend (Abigail, Age 10)

Ep. 26 – Abigail, Age 10: Feeling like a second-choice friend | Friendship doesn’t have to be all or nothing

Abigail wonders what to do when her two friends would rather play with each other than with her.

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DISCUSSION QUESTIONS

- Have you ever felt like a second-choice friend? How did you handle it? Do you think it’s possible to be good friends with someone if they like someone else more than they like you? Why or why not?

- Has a friend ever told you that they feel left out or jealous of your other friend? How did you respond?

- What does “all-or-nothing thinking” mean, when it comes to friendship? Why is it not a good idea?

- Saying, “You’re mean!” is not a good way to encourage someone to be kinder to you. Why do you think kids sometimes accuse friends of being mean? What are some better ways to communicate so your friends will want to listen when you tell them about a problem?

Books mentioned in the podcast:

Growing Friendships: A Kids' Guide to making and Keeping Friends https://eileenkennedymoore.com/child-development-books/growing-friendships/

Growing Feelings: A Kids' Guide to Dealing with Emotions about Friends and Other Kids https://eileenkennedymoore.com/child-development-books/growing-feelings/

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