What happens when high-performing moms carry hidden pain no one sees? This episode exposes the emotional cost of perfection, attachment wounds, and the struggle to feel safe in love and motherhood.

Topics Covered
👉 The unseen emotional pain behind high-performing motherhood
👉 How childhood instability shapes attachment and coping
👉 The “quiet disorganized” attachment style explained
👉 Emotional detachment as a stress survival mechanism
👉 Healing and self-awareness after divorce
👉 Nervous-system regulation and the need for safety
👉 The guilt around self-care for high-achieving women
👉 Reconnecting with emotions and authentic love

Behind every high-performing mom is often a nervous system in overdrive. True strength comes not from perfection but from reconnecting, feeling, and allowing love to be safe again.

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43. 2018年，我们学着告别

久等了。

我不知道你是否和我一样，前所未有地希望2018年赶紧过去，因为这一年有太多从小在书里、收音机里或者屏幕上看到的人离我们而去。

就像网友说的，“他们像进行着交接仪式一般，把世界交到我们手中”。

现在的信息太多了，再了不起的人离去，大家也会很快遗忘，继续做手头的事情。这当然没有错，因为我们的生活还要继续。

在茨威格《人类的群星闪耀时》这本书的前言里，有这样的话：

希望这期节目，能让更多人想起那些群星闪耀的时刻，这样他们才不会真正陨落。

本期歌单：

高姗 - The Road Not Taken

The Cranberries-Dreams

B.B.クイーンズ-おどるポンポコリン

Gael García Bernal;Gabriella Flores;Libertad García Fonzi-Remember Me

SpongeBob SquarePants-Ripped Pants

XXXTENTACION-Sad!

高胜美-千年等一回

周华健-难念的经

Aretha Franklin - Respect

Audrey Hepburn - Moon River

Bruno Coulais - Caresse Sur L'océan

Charles Aznavour - La bohème

Elliott Smith - Say Yes

Nat #King# Cole - Te Quiero Dijiste

Teletubbies - Puddle Dance

The City Of Prague Philharmonic Orchestra、James Fitzpatrick - Captain America March

卢凯彤 - 廿九岁的遗书

三叶草演唱组、崔京浩 - 通天大道宽又阔

沙宝亮 - 暗香

盛中国 - 小提琴协奏曲梁祝

王丹凤 - 小燕子

西城秀樹 - 追憶の瞳~Lola

野見祐二 - はにゅうの宿

臧天朔 - 朋友

郑绪岚 - 牧羊曲