Breaking the Silence on Vaginismus with Grace Margetson

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In this candid episode, UK-based creative director Grace Margetson joins us to discuss her deeply personal journey through vaginismus, a condition that affects 20% of women but remains largely taboo and underdiagnosed. Grace shares her experience of living with the condition, the struggles she faced in getting a diagnosis, and the emotional and physical toll it took on her relationships, work, and mental health. She also sheds light on the process of healing, the importance of advocating for oneself in the medical system, and the support that helped her finally overcome the condition.

Vaginismus is a condition where the muscles around the vagina involuntarily tighten, often causing severe pain during any attempt at vaginal penetration, such as during sex, pelvic exams, or tampon use. This reflexive contraction of the pelvic floor muscles is out of the person's control and can be highly distressing, both physically and emotionally.

Some common causes of vaginismus include past sexual trauma, anxiety, fear of pain, or even certain medical procedures. Additionally, cultural or religious teachings around sex, which may instill feelings of shame or guilt, can also contribute to its development.

Listeners will gain a deeper understanding of vaginismus, its impact on women’s health, and the paths available for treatment. Grace's vulnerability in sharing her story creates a space for others to feel seen and heard, offering hope and encouragement to those who may be suffering in silence.

Key Topics:

• What vaginismus is and how it manifests
• The emotional challenges of living with an under-recognized condition
• The societal and cultural taboos surrounding women's sexual health
• The long journey to diagnosis, including the barriers within the healthcare system
• Grace’s healing process and the role of pelvic floor therapy, mindfulness, and physiotherapy
• Why it’s important to break the silence and destigmatize conversations around women’s health

Statistics Mentioned:

• Vaginismus affects about 20% of women at some point in their lives.
• Around 80% of women with vaginismus can fully recover with appropriate treatment.
• On average, it can take 5-7 healthcare providers before receiving an accurate diagnosis for vaginismus.

Resources Mentioned:

• NHS Vaginismus Information: https://www.nhs.uk/conditions/vaginismus/
• Helen Forth (Pelvic Health Specialist): https://www.helenforthphysio.com/
• Maria Elliott: www.mariaelliottphysiotherapyservices.co.uk (http://www.mariaelliottphysiotherapyservices.co.uk/)
• Diane Daly: https://www.central-health.com/ourpeople/diane-daly/ (https://www.central-health.com/ourpeople/diane-daly/
• Tracy Matthews: www.whitehartclinic.co.uk (http://www.whitehartclinic.co.uk/)
• Recommended therapies: Yin yoga, pelvic floor exercises, diaphragmatic breathing

Vaginismus is a highly treatable condition, and with the right support, you can move through it and regain control of your body. Her story is a powerful testament to resilience and the importance of advocating for your health.

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Host: Jean Campbell

Guest: Grace Margetson

Executive Producer: Jean Campbell

Producer: Wicked Child Studio, Hailey Rovner Malach

Composer: Eduardo Vella