Productive Flourishing Podcast Todd Kashdan: How To Build Stronger Bonds (Episode 10)
Todd Kashdan is a public speaker, psychologist, professor, and author. He has published over 150 peer reviewed journal articles about the meaning of life, strength and development, stress, and more. He is the author of Curious? and, his most recent book, The Upside of Your Dark Side; which he talks a little bit about on Productive Flourishing. Todd shares his wide range of insights with Charlie in this episode as well as talks about some of the challenges he faces, creating stronger bonds, and more.
Key Takeaways:
2:45 – Todd explains how he has two core values and how challenging it is to manage both of them.
7:24 – If you're doing things that aren't pleasurable, but are meaningful, then it's important to have discipline.
11:00 – Everybody has their own set of tools, but it takes time for people to figure out what those tools are and how to use them.
16:20 – Don't always be nice. It sometimes pays to call people out and be a little more narcissistic.
21:50 – Experiencing challenges or discomfort with others creates strong bonds. If you are always nice with certain people, then those bonds aren't tested and you may seek comfort else where.
27:15 – Remember, experiencing anxiety, guilt, and embarrassment, although uncomfortable, these emotions have a purpose. They serve to remind you to be considerate of others.
35:30 – If you are impulsive and say what's on your mind without being a jerk about it, people tend to view you as more open, more kind, and will want to be in relationship with you.
43:50 – We become what we're doing, so what are you doing?
47:30 – Charlie loves Todd's latest book, The Upside of Your Dark Side.
48:20 – Todd talks about what's next for him in this segment.
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