Gyno Girl Presents: Sex, Drugs & Hormones Preparing Millennials for the Next Phase: Perimenopause and Beyond with Lauren Tetenbaum
This conversation with Lauren Tetenbaum revealed how her journey from reproductive rights lawyer to therapist led her to write "Millennial Menopause" after realizing she had no idea what was coming next in her late 30s. Her unique perspective combines legal advocacy, mental health expertise, and millennial pop culture references to make perimenopause education accessible and relatable.
Lauren emphasized that millennials are still being dismissed by providers with harmful phrases like "you're too young" and "your labs are normal so you're fine." She stressed that perimenopause can start in the late 30s and that normal lab results don't rule out hormonal changes. The shadow of the Women's Health Initiative continues to create unnecessary fear about hormone therapy, with breast cancer concerns being the most common question she receives.
The discussion highlighted how perimenopause intersects with major life transitions that define the millennial experience - career changes, relationship evaluations, and identity shifts. Lauren and I discussed while men experience "midlife crisis," women going through perimenopause often experience "midlife clarity" once they understand and treat their hormonal changes. This clarity sometimes leads to relationship changes as women reevaluate what they want and deserve.
A significant focus was placed on the mental health impact of perimenopause, particularly for women with previous anxiety or depression. Lauren explained that old coping mechanisms often stop working, and symptoms like rage, brain fog, and irritability can feel overwhelming. She advocates for psychoeducation as the first step, helping women understand that these changes are hormonally driven and treatable, not character flaws.
Lauren shared practical coping strategies including mindfulness techniques like box breathing, cold water on wrists or neck, and "putting the pause back in menopause." She emphasized the importance of partners getting educated and helping with the mental load rather than just witnessing the struggle. Her approach combines cognitive behavioral therapy with self-compassion work and acceptance.
Highlights:
- Why millennials need to start preparing for perimenopause now, even in their 30s.
- Debunking the "too young" myth and normal lab fallacy.
- How perimenopause creates "midlife clarity" vs traditional midlife crisis.
- Practical mindfulness techniques: box breathing, cold water therapy, five senses grounding.
- The connection between postpartum mental health and perimenopause preparation.
- Why partners need education and how to support without judgment.
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