A negative couples cycle is a recurring pattern of interaction in which partners react to each other’s protective moves, escalating conflict rather than addressing the underlying emotions. Colter, Cayla, and Lauren illustrate how miscommunication and emotional defenses—such as criticism, defensiveness, or withdrawal—reinforce each other in a self-perpetuating loop. By identifying these cycles and understanding the emotions driving them, couples can shift from blame to curiosity, fostering better connection and repair.

In the episode, we touch on relationship topics such as:

The Root of Negative Cycles
Common Protective Moves
Emotional Drivers of Conflict
Recognizing & Breaking the Cycle
Repairing the Cycle

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