Brendan O'Connor “Break ups? They’re bloody hard!” - Richard Hogan
Oct 4, 2025
Richard Hogan, a psychotherapist and author, shares his expertise on navigating the tricky waters of break-ups, separation, and divorce. He discusses the painful realities of rejection and how it impacts our identity. Hogan offers advice on communicating with children during separations, stressing the importance of supportive language. He also explains how to maintain healthy boundaries post-separation and why living under tension can harm kids. Ultimately, he highlights the significance of honest communication for personal growth and relationship fulfillment.
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Breakups Break Identity
- Breakups trigger the same brain regions as physical rejection and can shatter identity, especially in young people forming themselves.
- Each relationship ending offers a chance to move closer to the relationship that will sustain you long-term.
Encourage Young Hearts To Feel And Try
- Wallow briefly after a teen breakup and acknowledge the courage it took to enter romance in the first place.
- Reassure yourself that a broken relationship doesn't mean you're unlovable and you can try again.
Protect Children From Parental Criticism
- Don't bad-mouth your child's ex to your child after a separation because it leaves lifelong scars.
- Keep adult grievances with friends and protect the child's attachment to both parents.
