The real problem for many today is not ADD; it is, rather, what Headmaster Alvaro de Vicente refers to as IDD: intimacy deficit disorder. This problem is even worse for men, who on average have fewer close friends. Studies indicate that the percentage of males who report having at least six close friends has been cut in half since the 1990s. There is, it would seem, a recession in male friendships. While there is no easy panacea for this problem, as with most things, one's education can have a lasting impact on how a child learns—or doesn't learn—to relate to others.

This week we feature a recording of the annual Headmaster's Lecture titled "Friendship and the 21st-Century Boy." In the lecture, Alvaro discusses what friendship is and how to help children—and young boys, in particular—foster healthy friendships. He discusses contemporary obstacles to friendship and why growth in maturity is necessary for true, deep, and lasting friendships. He also offers a few words on what parents can do about bad friends—or, rather, friends with bad characteristics.

In the end, Alvaro gives some practical advice for how parents and educators can set the stage for the formation of what Cicero called "the greatest of all gifts from the gods," friendship.

Chapters

4:42 Introduction
6:10 What is friendship?
8:47 Fostering friendship by common action
12:02 Intimacy
17:41 Why maturity is necessary
21:26 Characteristics of maturity in friendship
26:09 What to do about "bad friends"?
30:32 Should parents intervene in their children's friendships?
32:17 How to separate your son from a bad influence
39:27 Specific challenges to boy friendship in the 21st century
50:50 Challenge of living in a hypersexualized environment
54:02 Practical ideas

Friendship and the 21st Century Boy