Episode 457: Gay Men Who Have Sex With Women

Most people think men’s sexual orientation is pretty straightforward: if you’re gay, you only sleep with men, and if you’re straight, you only sleep with women. But things aren’t always that simple. In today’s show, we’re exploring a reality that doesn’t fit the script—gay men who are out and confident in their identity, but who sometimes sleep with women.

I am joined once again by Dr. Joe Kort, the clinical director and founder of The Center for Relationship and Sexual Health in Royal Oak, Michigan. He is a board-certified clinical sexologist and author of multiple books, including Cracking the Erotic Code: Helping Gay Men Understand Their Fantasies.

Some of the specific topics we explore in this episode include:

• What are the main reasons why some gay men have sex with women?
• Why might a woman want to have sex with a gay man?
• Does your sexual behavior necessarily have to align with your sexual identity?
• Why do people sometimes engage in behaviors that don’t seem to match up with their sexual orientation?

You can visit Joe’s website to learn more about his work.

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