72. Confidence in the Bedroom with Raquel Savage

Raquel is a therapist, educator, sex worker, podcaster who teaches you everything from giving a good blow job to overcoming sexual trauma. Raquel joins us to talk about how to have more confidence in the bedroom. We tackle how to set boundaries, speak up for yourself, know your inherent worth outside of what men think, overcoming insecurities by understanding fat phobia, the difference between feeling sexy versus sexual, how finding your own identity separate from your partner can spice up sex, how our upbringing affects how we view sex and so much more. Raquel truly gives incredible, accessible advice that will help you feel empowered and relieve the pressure we as women put on ourselves.

“The beginning place for people who are struggling with how they feel about their body and wanting to work through that is first naming and learning about fat phobia: how it shows up in our culture, in your family, in our culture and how you’ve internalized it. It’s damn near impossible to move through anything with your body if you're not recognizing the system which informs it.” - Raquel Savage

What we talk about:

• The importance of surrounding yourself with people who you relate to when it comes to building body confidence and unlearning societal programming

• How detrimental it is to relate our value to how attractive we are to men

• Educating yourself on fat phobia

• Importance of setting boundaries and speaking up for yourself with your partners when talking about STIs or wearing a condom

• How finding your own identity separate from your partner can spice up sex

• Ask away: What to say to a friend when they are fat shaming themselves

“I’m not even aiming to be sexy anymore. I’m aiming to be alive, and to move my body and to smell good, and to eat things that make me feel really divine, and to do things with my body that make me feel joy.” - Raquel Savage

New podcast episodes of Confident Collective drop every Tuesday.

Resources:

• Raeann’s obsessed with this book: “Everything I Know About Love” by Dolly Alderton

• Kristina’s obsessed with these Abercrombie Jeans

• Follow Raquel on Instagram @raquelsavage or Twitter @raquel_savage

• Raquel’s website

• Raquel’s Patreon

• Follow us on Instagram: @confidentcollective 

• Follow the Hosts/Founders: @kristinazias & @raeannlangas

• Learn more: https://www.theconfidentcollective.com/

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