Ep. 12 - Things Chinese Do That Europeans Find Weird (Dating in China, Feminism and Masculinity)
Nov 14, 2023
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Alejandra, a Spaniard living in Shanghai, discusses culture shocks when moving to China, dating differences between Chinese and Europeans, the impact of feminism on dating, and the challenges of modern relationships. They also explore the portrayal of sex in Spanish movies, the lack of accountability in online dating, and the disposable nature of contemporary relationships. Living in China has influenced their personal growth, making them more open-minded.
Dating in China involves cultural differences and unique expectations, such as being treated as a princess.
Chinese men tend to be more adorable and treat their partners in a cute and sweet way.
In Chinese culture, traditional gender roles are being redefined, emphasizing the need for a new definition of masculinity.
Balancing independence and allowing gestures of kindness in a cross-cultural relationship is essential for understanding and appreciation.
Deep dives
Moving from Europe to China and Cultural Differences
The podcast episode discusses the experience of Alejandra, who moved from Spain to China. She shares anecdotes and insights about the cultural differences she encountered, such as the expectation of being treated as a princess in Chinese relationships. She also talks about the challenges she faced in adjusting to Chinese lifestyle and the initial culture shock she experienced.
The Differences in Dating Chinese Men
Alejandra talks about her cross-cultural relationship with a Chinese man. She mentions the difference in dating expectations and behavior, highlighting how Chinese men tend to be more adorable and treat their partners in a cute and sweet way. She also discusses the contrast between the traditional gender roles in China and the concept of feminism. Alejandra shares her own journey of understanding and appreciating these cultural nuances.
The Evolution of Masculinity and Femininity
The podcast explores the changing concepts of masculinity and femininity in the context of Chinese culture. Alejandra discusses how traditional gender roles and expectations are being redefined, both for Chinese men and women. She emphasizes the importance of reevaluating these roles and creating a new definition of masculinity that goes beyond societal stereotypes.
Balancing Independence and Being Treated Well
Alejandra reflects on her own journey of balancing her independence and allowing her Chinese boyfriend to treat her well. She shares how she came to understand that his gestures of kindness were not about power or control, but were his way of showing affection and sweetness. She also mentions the importance of giving back in a relationship and finding ways to contribute and show appreciation.
Personal Growth and Cultural Understanding
Living in China has challenged the speaker's worldview and led to personal growth. They have become more understanding, patient, and less easily offended. They have learned to navigate cultural differences and become more open-minded.
The Challenges of Dating and Relationships
The speaker discusses the difficulties they have experienced in dating and relationships, particularly in terms of cultural differences. They mention the challenges of humor, expectations, and societal pressures. They explore the differences in sexual attitudes and expectations between Western and Chinese cultures.
Changing Societal Dynamics and Relationship Expectations
The speaker reflects on the impact of societal changes on relationships. They discuss the shift from traditional marriages and commitment to a more disposable and individualistic approach. They also mention the importance of compromise, understanding, and communication in modern relationships.
This week I chat to Alejandra, a Spaniard living in Shanghai. We talk about the biggest culture shocks she had dealt with when moving to China, why dating a Chinese man is incredibly different from a European, why dating as a European in East Asia can be shocking to the core, and how feminism has ruined dating for women.
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