The Partnership Podcast How to Handle Your Partner’s Ego (Can Great Sex Trigger an Emotional Crash?)
What do you do when your partner’s ego takes the wheel? In this deeply honest episode, Lauren and Trey explore how to handle ego in real-time partnership. Trey opens up about recent struggles with his inner critic, replaying imaginary arguments, and how it’s made him short-tempered. Lauren gently suggests this might not be "stupid" behavior—but actually part of the work of real, evolving partnership.
They unpack a pivotal moment that came to a head over ice cream, when Trey’s defensiveness flared in response to their 14-year-old. Lauren accessed anger in a way she rarely does, and for the first time, Trey dropped his walls. What followed was a meaningful, healing conversation that helped them both grow.
Lauren connects this moment to Trey's childhood patterning—specifically, the safety-seeking behaviors he developed when his mother would yell at him in the car. She wonders if “The Baby” might actually be the healing balm for his mother wound. Trey admits Lauren can provoke him like no one else—and maybe that's a good thing.
Later, they share details from a playful, connected date where they revisited the 3-Minute Game. The experience was so profound that it might have sent them into a state of DROP—a physical, emotional, and chemical crash that can follow intense pleasure. Lauren explains how the nervous system reacts to intense intimacy, why we sometimes feel disoriented or exhausted afterward, and how important it is to close the container.
They wrap up by discussing what they’ll do differently next time to stay connected and grounded—and how to better support each other through the mess and magic of long-term love.
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About Us: Lauren and Trey are partners living in Central Virginia where Lauren owns and operates, SEX ED FOR YOU. She provides comprehensive sexuality education and embodied coaching to individuals, partners, and parents.
Through a biopsychosocial approach, Sex Ed for You works to restore positive and respectful approaches to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as increase the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. (WHO)
Sexual health is fundamental to the overall health and well-being of individuals, couples and families, and to the social and economic development of communities and countries. (WHO) When individuals are blocked from sexual health they are stunted from developing a sense of sensual play and enjoyment.
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Reminders: This is not a "how to" podcast, but rather a "how they" podcast. Please listen to our opinions and then come to your own! Learn from our mistakes or give our techniques a try! It’s all up to you. Lauren is NOT a therapist. She is a Certified Holistic Sexuality Educator and Embodied Intimacy and Relationship Coach.
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