It can be hard to find out about play parties (sex parties) if you're not 'in the know'. Good thing for you, Lila Donnolo is very much 'in the know'. She lives in a sex-positive intentional community in Brooklyn called Hacienda House. We discuss the ins and outs of living in such a community, how to get invited to play parties, some of the etiquette required to fully enjoy yourself, and more.

Lila is also the host Horizontal With Lila, a podcast on intimacy that is recorded lying down. Lila is warm, generous, and her voice sounds like honey. It's the most soothing thing I hear every week. You’re going to love this episode.

What you'll learn (or why you should care):

• How to get invited to sex parties

• What it's like living in a clothing-optional, sex-positive, intentional community in NY

• How to be a responsible hedonist by checking in on your partner's desires, fears, boundaries, and intentions

Notes and Resources

Find detailed show notes about this episode here.

Find her on her website and on Instagram.

To find out more about Hacienda House and to get invited to their public sexy events, go here.

Learn more about Kenneth Play, co-founder of Hacienda, sex hacker, and founder of the Husband Camp course here.

This show is produced by Shaun Galanos.

Living in a sex-positive community with Lila Donnolo