Kuldrin's Krypt A BDSM 101 Podcast Keeping it Kinky for the Holidays Revisited-S04E15
May 29, 2022
01:16:10
Recorded: 11/21/2021 / Published: 5/29/2022
- https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are revisiting how to keep it kinky during the holiday season.
- Rules to Love By: (https://inclusionwoodworks.com)
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “Keeping it Kinky for the Holidays Revisited-S04E15”
With the holidays fast approaching I get a lot of questions about maintaining a D/s role around the nonkinky family. And a special thank you to my sub, Mayfair for suggesting that I do this as an episode...again. There are several ways to stay in role but not appear anyway that would make grandma uncomfortable. So here are five ways to keep the kink without killing kinfolk.
Decide on names.
Decide on food limits prior to any gatherings.
Use gestures.
Serve food and drinks.
Pick clothing and day collar in advance.
Holiday Protocols
Make it a scene:
Negotiate expectations
Set up small inconspicuous tasks
Important hand signals
Being excused
Needing affection
Needing “saved”
Needing alone time or time away due to stress levels
Need to leave the gathering aka “RED!”
If this one is needed, separate transportation may be needed as well.
Planned the fun rewards and punishments/funishments for after the event.
Drop Role – the slave is permitted to actually “drop role” and behave in any way she wishes. The slave is specifically NOT to use words like “Master” nor engage in any overt submissive behavior (e.g. ask permission to go to the bathroom, etc.), nor make any overt BDSM references while in the Drop Role environment/situation. However, the slave IS expected to behave in a manner which still reflects well on The Master, i.e. common courtesy and politeness should still be present, and proper social graces are expected. The slave may converse freely with anyone. The slave remains “Drop Role” until otherwise instructed by The Master, but should be ready to return to proper role at a moment’s notice. This command is especially useful, for example, when spending time with Vanilla peers or parents. This can also be assigned to a specific time period, such as “Drop Role for the entire weekend while we are staying in your parent’s house.” [Arcane, Master. IGNITING THE FIRE: The Art of Romantic Submission]
Slipping up with lifestyle names and actions and ways to cover.
I.e. referring to Dom as Master, Sir, Daddy, …
Formal presentation of items.
Presents
Are vanilla presents ok?
Picking the right time to exchange gifts.
Are collars ok to give as presents?
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/415
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
Show Producers:
Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
Make a one-time donation: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PayPal
Snail mail a donation or gift:
Kuldrin Entertainment, LLC
257 N. Calderwood Rd. #168
Alcoa, TN 37701
- Benefactor ($2,000/month):
- Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92
- Master Producer ($50/month):
- Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Anomalous Mats, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, and Frozen Moron
- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, Trouble113, RoxieBear, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, Alexandria, babylove&T-Rex, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Knot_the_Daddy, Atsila, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Odie & Ceci, Cap'n J, Saviy, AK-47, Mr. Byond, and CurtainCall, RodderBaily and SubmissiveKay
- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, Arctic Foxglove, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Gator, Gizmo, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, Ben, TinkerBratTN, Brittany, Sekhmets_Shadow, Beatrix Kiddo, Solstice, FetishArtist, and SirBNice
- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and Ashley
Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
- Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13
- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)
Contact info:
Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt
- https://kuldrinskrypt.com.
- In this week’s episode of The Krypt we are revisiting how to keep it kinky during the holiday season.
- Rules to Love By: (https://inclusionwoodworks.com)
1: Safe, sane, consensual, and informed
2: KNKI: Knowledge, No Intolerance, Kindness, Integrity
3: “Submission is not about authority and it’s not about obedience; it is all about relationships of love and respect.” -Wm. Paul Young
- “Keeping it Kinky for the Holidays Revisited-S04E15”
With the holidays fast approaching I get a lot of questions about maintaining a D/s role around the nonkinky family. And a special thank you to my sub, Mayfair for suggesting that I do this as an episode...again. There are several ways to stay in role but not appear anyway that would make grandma uncomfortable. So here are five ways to keep the kink without killing kinfolk.
Decide on names.
Decide on food limits prior to any gatherings.
Use gestures.
Serve food and drinks.
Pick clothing and day collar in advance.
Holiday Protocols
Make it a scene:
Negotiate expectations
Set up small inconspicuous tasks
Important hand signals
Being excused
Needing affection
Needing “saved”
Needing alone time or time away due to stress levels
Need to leave the gathering aka “RED!”
If this one is needed, separate transportation may be needed as well.
Planned the fun rewards and punishments/funishments for after the event.
Drop Role – the slave is permitted to actually “drop role” and behave in any way she wishes. The slave is specifically NOT to use words like “Master” nor engage in any overt submissive behavior (e.g. ask permission to go to the bathroom, etc.), nor make any overt BDSM references while in the Drop Role environment/situation. However, the slave IS expected to behave in a manner which still reflects well on The Master, i.e. common courtesy and politeness should still be present, and proper social graces are expected. The slave may converse freely with anyone. The slave remains “Drop Role” until otherwise instructed by The Master, but should be ready to return to proper role at a moment’s notice. This command is especially useful, for example, when spending time with Vanilla peers or parents. This can also be assigned to a specific time period, such as “Drop Role for the entire weekend while we are staying in your parent’s house.” [Arcane, Master. IGNITING THE FIRE: The Art of Romantic Submission]
Slipping up with lifestyle names and actions and ways to cover.
I.e. referring to Dom as Master, Sir, Daddy, …
Formal presentation of items.
Presents
Are vanilla presents ok?
Picking the right time to exchange gifts.
Are collars ok to give as presents?
Important Links:
Full show notes: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/415
National Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/silentcommunication
https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/survey
https://kuldrinskrypt.com/TeePublic
Show Producers:
Become a show producer: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/Patreon
Make a one-time donation: https://KuldrinsKrypt.com/PayPal
Snail mail a donation or gift:
Kuldrin Entertainment, LLC
257 N. Calderwood Rd. #168
Alcoa, TN 37701
- Benefactor ($2,000/month):
- Pro Producer ($100/month): Buffalo_Max92
- Master Producer ($50/month):
- Executive Producer ($25/month) ShadowyFox, JunicornsAngel, Johnny Ferrell, Haru Webb, Rei Webb, Anomalous Mats, Just_Call_Me_Ash, Kiongakyu, and Frozen Moron
- Sr. Producers ($10/month): xEmeraldxWolfx, Trouble113, RoxieBear, ThatPlace: Oklahoma City, Alexandria, babylove&T-Rex, SortOutTheKinks, Master Gabriel, Knot_the_Daddy, Atsila, Daddy Steve, Sir Pent, KJ, AuthorMistressBlackrose, UpstateScCouple, Crystal Force, Cali, PerfectlyThick, Odie & Ceci, Cap'n J, Saviy, AK-47, Mr. Byond, and CurtainCall, RodderBaily and SubmissiveKay
- Producers ($5/month): Kainsin, Hadea, Sir&Kitten, Raven, MBRpoodle, LylacWine, Baddogbad, Arctic Foxglove, MsRedSin & AJRJ, Katnipmeow, WyldThyme&Deacon Sean, CheeryQuery, Ropestuff2, Rabbit, BurningRedHot, Sir Wolf ArchAngel, Subx13, CourtsDom, Gator, Gizmo, JJ, Jon Shaw, TheCheshyre, Ben, TinkerBratTN, Brittany, Sekhmets_Shadow, Beatrix Kiddo, Solstice, FetishArtist, and SirBNice
- Jr. Producers ($1/month): K-2SO, Jeremiah, Morgana13, Brodie, The Gabbing Girl Time Podcast, Lexa, and Ashley
Vendors I know, like, trust, and use: (None of these are paid sponsors of the podcast.)
- http://bdsmcontracts.org Coupon code: kuldrin20 for a 20% discount on all purchases.
- http://whippingstripes.com - My personal maker of most things leather and paracord impact toys.
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TorridTimber - Fine fetish furniture and accessories
- https://www.etsy.com/shop/TheCraftyHedonist
- Tink’s Toys Fb Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/2350280868612699 Fetlife Profile: https://fetlife.com/users/9885653?sp=3 *coupon for listeners (first purchase only) TinksToys13
- Dark Delights Shops: https://darkdelightsshop.com/ (Watch my product review of them: https://kuldrinskrypt.com/DarkDelightsShop)
Contact info:
Email: MasterKuldrin@gmail.com
Fetlife Group: https://fetlife.com/groups/159275
Twitter: @MasterKuldrin https://twitter.com/MasterKuldrin
Patreon: kuldrinskrypt https://www.patreon.com/KuldrinsKrypt