Dr. Wendy Mogel speaks with Leah and Bobby about sibling inequality and the concept of voorpret. They discuss attitudes towards embracing new things and taking risks, supporting a child who learns differently, controlling atmospheres and sibling dynamics, challenges of driving, dynamics in the car, the importance of maintaining date night, and regulating dynamics and understanding paradolia.
Allowing for inquiry and providing a framework for answering questions fosters curiosity and healthy communication patterns.
Open conversations with schools about a child's learning style and triggers, along with seeking resources, can support children with autism spectrum disorder.
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Moving from the Bay Area to London
The podcast episode follows the story of a family of five who moved from the Bay Area to London. The move prompted them to think differently about time, autism spectrum disorder, and the power of homemade cookies. Each child's unique motivations guided the parents' strategies for individual fulfillment. The family dynamics shifted as they adjusted to a new culture and lifestyle, with the father noticing a shift from risk-taking to risk aversion. Despite the challenges, the move allowed for more quality time and intimate connections within the family.
Navigating a Curious and Inquisitive Child
One of the children, Charles, is described as a highly inquisitive and curious child who constantly asks questions. His constant pursuit of knowledge can sometimes be overwhelming for his parents, especially when they are driving and he bombards them with philosophical questions. The episode highlights the importance of allowing for inquiry and providing a framework for answering these questions in a way that encourages further learning. Setting boundaries and redirecting Charles to tools like Google for specific details helps foster his curiosity while establishing healthy communication patterns.
Supporting a Child with Autism
The family's second child, Ethan, has been diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder. The parents discuss the importance of diagnosis in obtaining the right support and accommodations for their child at school. Ethan receives assistance within the school to ensure he does not fall behind and learns in a way that suits his needs. The parents also emphasize the significance of open conversations with the school about their child's learning style and triggers. Additionally, the family actively seeks resources, such as books and media, to teach social skills to Ethan, as those do not come naturally to him.
Navigating Sibling Dynamics and Individuality
The episode delves into the dynamics between Rose, the family's youngest child, and her older brothers, Charles and Ethan. Rose, as the only girl, strives to be noticed and assert her own power, often engaging in teasing and provoking her brothers. Charles, who takes his role as the eldest seriously, often struggles with managing his frustration and ignoring his sister's attention-seeking behavior. The parents discuss the challenge of balancing attention and recognition for all the children, highlighting the need for each child to have their own domain of mastery and individuality. The importance of maintaining a sense of humor, enjoying shared activities, and creating a positive family environment is also emphasized.
Dr. Mogel speaks with family #13: Leah and Bobby and answers the question: Will our children hate us if there's sibling inequality? She also teaches us a new word: voorpret
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