The Ramsey Show Highlights My Girlfriend's Mom Is Micromanaging Our Relationship
Nov 11, 2025
Jacob, a 25-year-old DevOps engineer, calls in about his long-distance relationship and the challenges posed by his girlfriend's overbearing mother. He discusses the mother's conditional land gift and her concerns about his financial responsibility. Dave offers advice against building a house before marriage and suggests declining the conditional gift. He emphasizes the need for setting boundaries and assessing whether the mother’s concerns are legitimate or merely controlling behavior, urging Jacob to take charge of his relationship dynamics.
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Long-Distance Move And Land Plan
- Jacob met his girlfriend online and moved from Michigan to Tennessee to pursue the relationship.
- They discussed building a house on the girlfriend's family land after dating for nearly two years.
Mother Using Land As Leverage
- Jacob says the girlfriend's mom is questioning his every decision and withholding an acre of land as leverage.
- The mom is reportedly interjecting into their finances and trying to persuade the daughter against Jacob.
Don't Build A House Before Marriage
- Avoid building or buying a house with someone you are not married to.
- Dave advises proposing first and doing major property decisions after marriage or building somewhere else.