71. 11 Lessons from Kristina's 11 Year Relationship

Kristina has been with Steve for 11 years, and has learned a lot throughout their relationship. From being 22 dealing with insecurities to moving across the country to start a new life together and then starting a family, Kristina has valuable insight to share about how to have a happy, long-lasting relationship.

It’s important to remember that no one’s relationship is perfect and not to compare yourself or your relationship to anyone else’s (even Kristina and Steve’s.) We hope this information gives you a new perspective on what you should look for in a partner and what to prioritize in a relationship for it to be the most healthy, loving and fulfilling it can be. At the very least, we hope you feel seen, understood and less alone with the challenges and learnings within your relationship.

“A guy who cares about you is not trying to put you through the ringer, he’s not trying to play games, he’s going to make the effort. He’s going to text you and thank you for a good night out. You shouldn’t have to guess if someone’s into you and if you’re questioning it, he’s probably not.” - Kristina

What Kristina talks about:

• How to know if a guy is really into you 

• What not to do in relationships/a hurdle they had to overcome in the beginning

• What’s truly important in a relationship

• How having kids affects a relationship

• Being intentional with who you talk to about your relationship

• Advice for dealing with extended family dynamics 

• Dangers of unrealistic expectations and comparison 

• Not being thrown off by different seasons and phases of your relationship

• Ask away segment: How to tell a friend they’re not in your wedding

“Sometimes seasons of sadness or anger feel so much longer than seasons of happiness and excitement. It’s important to reflect on your relationship as a whole, and not let those frustrating moments be bigger than they are or overshadow all the beautiful moments you have together.”  - Kristina

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Resources:

• Our podcast episode about Human Design with Erin Claire Jones

• Check out hanifa, a black female owned size inclusive clothing brand

• Checkered rings from Rellery

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