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Attraction is a process that can be broken down into four distinct stages: chemistry, perceived value, perceived challenge, and connection. Chemistry refers to the physical attraction and compatibility between two people, while perceived value refers to the qualities and attributes that individuals bring to a relationship. Perceived challenge involves having a healthy balance of giving and receiving, where both individuals have a price for their value. Finally, connection is about compatibility and shared values, where both individuals want to live a similar kind of life.
One common mistake in dating is adhering to stereotypes and preconceived notions surrounding attraction. It's important not to judge potential partners solely based on surface-level characteristics or assume that a person's initial attractiveness guarantees a successful relationship. Another mistake is not being open to exploring new types of attraction, or fixating on the idea of finding the perfect partner instead of showing genuine curiosity and allowing for organic connections. It's essential to challenge old beliefs, be self-aware, and approach dating with an open mind.
In the modern dating landscape, it's crucial to recognize the changing dynamics and adapt accordingly. One approach is to create opportunities for connection by initiating small acts of service or favors, akin to dropping a metaphorical handkerchief. By engaging in simple interactions and building rapport gradually, individuals can foster a sense of approachability and facilitate conversations in a non-threatening manner. Additionally, understanding and catering to each partner's needs, whether it is providing security or maintaining a sense of excitement, helps sustain desire and balance within the relationship.
Maintaining desire in long-term relationships requires ongoing effort and attentiveness. It is essential to recognize that desire thrives in the space between individuals and is fueled by curiosity, mystery, and unpredictability. To sustain desire, partners should pay attention to the moments and actions that ignite desire in their significant other and find ways to recreate those experiences. This may involve small gestures, breaking routines, allowing for independence, and embracing elements of surprise and novelty. Understanding and catering to both love and desire in a partnership can contribute to a fulfilling long-term relationship.
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Navigating the world of modern dating and romance is hard. Back in our parents’ and grandparents’ days, it was common for people to meet through family or mutual friends. Nowadays, things are a little more complicated. We’re much less likely to meet our potential partners organically. It’s pretty rare for people to meet through sports clubs, events, or just by hanging out with people who live in your local area. The rise of dating apps and websites means that our first encounter with our potential partners is likely to be through a screen - which comes with a lot of complexities. On top of that, the rise of social media encourages us compare our relationship with the seemingly perfect couples on Instagram - which often creates unrealistic expectations. So, how do we navigate this new landscape and find those meaningful connections that we crave and that add value to our lives? In this episode of deep dive, I spoke to renowned dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew Hussey has helped millions of people find love and build strong relationships for over a decade. His YouTube channel has nearly 3 million subscribers and his book, ‘Get the Guy’, is a New York Times bestseller. In the episode you'll learn about:
00:00 Navigating the world of dating
03:19 The 4 stages of attraction
17:53 Mistakes we make when dating
28:23 Practical dating advice
44:26 The secret to long-lasting desire
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