Bonus Episode - The Science of Attraction: Why You’ve Not Met Someone - Matthew Hussey

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Jun 8, 2023

Matthew Hussey, a renowned dating coach and author of the bestseller ‘Get the Guy’, shares insights on modern romance and attraction. He discusses the complexities of dating in today's digital age versus simpler past practices, emphasizing genuine connections over superficial sparks. Hussey explores the four stages of attraction, highlights common dating mistakes, and provides practical advice for fostering lasting relationships. He encourages women to take initiative in dating and stresses the importance of small interactions to build meaningful connections.

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INSIGHT

Formula for Deep Attraction

Deep attraction involves chemistry, perceived value, challenge, and connection.
Understanding these components helps diagnose relationship issues.

INSIGHT

Sustainable Challenge

Perceived challenge isn't playing hard to get; it's having standards.
Your value shouldn't be free; it should be earned by someone's effort.

ADVICE

Avoid Early Validation

Avoid giving people too much credit too quickly in dating.
Base your assessment on real information, not projection or insecurity.

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Navigating the world of modern dating and romance is hard. Back in our parents’ and grandparents’ days, it was common for people to meet through family or mutual friends. Nowadays, things are a little more complicated. We’re much less likely to meet our potential partners organically. It’s pretty rare for people to meet through sports clubs, events, or just by hanging out with people who live in your local area. The rise of dating apps and websites means that our first encounter with our potential partners is likely to be through a screen - which comes with a lot of complexities. On top of that, the rise of social media encourages us compare our relationship with the seemingly perfect couples on Instagram - which often creates unrealistic expectations. So, how do we navigate this new landscape and find those meaningful connections that we crave and that add value to our lives? In this episode of deep dive, I spoke to renowned dating coach Matthew Hussey. Matthew Hussey has helped millions of people find love and build strong relationships for over a decade. His YouTube channel has nearly 3 million subscribers and his book, ‘Get the Guy’, is a New York Times bestseller. In the episode you'll learn about:

00:00 Navigating the world of dating
03:19 The 4 stages of attraction
17:53 Mistakes we make when dating
28:23 Practical dating advice
44:26 The secret to long-lasting desire

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