S5 Episode 26: The Codependent Perfectionist with Alana Carvalho, LMHC

Alana Carvalho is a licensed mental health counselor, author, speaker, and podcast host who has dedicated her career to helping individuals, couples, and families heal the unconscious patterns that keep them stuck in codependency, perfectionism, people pleasing, and self-abandonment. Her clinical work is rooted in the belief that the way we show up in relationships is deeply connected to the way we were taught to see ourselves and her mission is to help people unlearn the roles they were handed and reclaim who they really are. Alana is the author of the book Raising Empowered Children and the host of the podcast The CodependentPerfectionist, where she explores the emotional patterns behind people-pleasing, self-sacrifice, and unmet childhood needs. She holds degrees from both The George Washington University and Columbia University and Alana’s work is especially known for its clarity and compassion and her way of making complex emotional dynamics feel human and accessible. Whether she’s speaking to a mother trying to break generational cycles, a partner who constantly puts themselves last, or an adult still carrying wounds from childhood, Alana’s message is clear: healing doesn’t require perfection. It requires presence, boundaries, and the willingness to choose yourself, again and again.

Connect with Alana:

Instagram - @thecodependentperfectionist

Website - www.alanacarvalho.com

Podcast - www.alanacarvalho.com/podcast

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