#384 Bi the Way, Have You Taken the Slut Pledge or Had a Threesome? - with April Hirschman
Jun 4, 2024
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Author April Hirschman discusses bravery in embracing desires, erotic virginity, and bisexuality. Tips for successful threesomes and societal challenges for bisexual individuals. Topics include language around sexuality, reclaiming identity, and navigating boundaries in dating.
Exploring unfamiliar experiences enhances pleasure through losing erotic virginity.
Advocating for authentic self-representation is crucial for bisexual individuals navigating societal norms.
Transitioning between dating men and women signifies embracing fluidity in sexual preferences and resisting fixed labels.
Deep dives
Exploring Erotic Virginity and Advocating for Boundaries
Losing erotic virginity involves exploring unfamiliar experiences to enhance pleasure. Advocating for boundaries is crucial, especially for people-pleasers, to prioritize self-care and establish collaborative partnerships that focus on health and safety.
Navigating Bisexuality and People-Pleasing
Being bisexual complicates fitting into defined categories, leading to challenges with self-expression and people-pleasing tendencies. Advocating for authentic self-representation is essential, considering the historical pathologizing of bisexuality and the ongoing struggle for visibility.
Fluidity in Dating Men and Women and Shifting Perspectives
Dating experiences with different genders are influenced by societal norms and personal attractions. Transitioning between dating men and women reflects socialization patterns but also signifies embracing fluidity in sexual preferences and resisting fixed labels and expectations.
Navigating Threesomes and Emotional Dynamics
The podcast delves into the complexities of engaging in threesomes, highlighting personal experiences and challenges faced in these encounters. The speaker discusses the importance of clear communication and setting expectations before a threesome, emphasizing the need to consider emotional connections and potential outcomes beyond the physical experience. Exploring failed threesomes, the discussion revolves around how these encounters can either bring people closer together or create emotional distance.
Empowering Breakups and Self-Identity
The episode also features insights from the speaker's books, 'Desire Makes Me Brave' and 'Best Breakup Ever,' which offer unconventional perspectives on relationships and breakups. 'Desire Makes Me Brave' is praised for its interactive style addressing travel experiences, while 'Best Breakup Ever' challenges traditional breakup narratives, focusing on self-empowerment and humor. The speaker encourages bookstore activism and local purchases, emphasizing inclusivity and support for diverse relationship styles.
What is the slut pledge and why should we take it? How does embracing our desires relate to bravery? What does it mean to “lose your erotic virginity”, and how does this bring more pleasure and aliveness into one's life? How does being a bisexual person require a lot of erotic bravery? Are bi folks the ultimate unicorn for threesomes? And what are some top tips (regardless of orientation) for successful threesomes?
About our guest: April Hirschman is the author of the self-help book Best Breakup Ever! Her new memoir Desire Makes Me Brave came out in March 2024. She is a sex and relationship coach and the host of the Heart Centerfold Memoir podcast. She is also a belly dancer, film maker and yoga instructor. To learn more go to Aprilhirschman.com
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