Understanding the extremes of Calvinism and relational faith

There are two extremes when it comes to the issue of losing one's salvation: hyper Calvinism and the on-and-off relationship mindset. The hyper Calvinism perspective suggests that personal faith and choice don't matter, and one is either predestined for salvation or wrath. On the other extreme, the on-and-off relationship mindset treats faith like a high school or college dating relationship, where one is constantly questioning their standing with God. These extremes can create confusion and stress regarding where the line is between salvation and wrath.