How to Help Someone With Addiction Who Isn't Ready to Change

What if the fastest way to help a loved one stop using isn’t pushing harder but stepping out of the “villain” role? We sit down with master addiction counselor and YouTuber Amber Hollingsworth to unpack a practical, compassionate framework that actually moves people from resistance to readiness. Amber explains why policing, nagging, and ultimatums create the perfect distraction from change—and how strategic empathy, active listening, and credibility open the door to real motivation.

We break the recovery process into simple, workable steps: stop being the bad guy, build trust by reflecting the person’s perspective, and allow the bargaining phase—“only on weekends,” “just beer,” “no more pills”—to serve as useful data rather than defeat. You’ll hear how to accelerate learning without triggering defensiveness, why a 30-day trial of sobriety is a powerful reality check, and how to prepare resources so you can act quickly when the “I’m ready” moment arrives. We also dive into separate-counselor models that lower conflict, how to align change with a person’s values and strengths, and the role of humor and respect in keeping people engaged.

We don’t ignore medical realities. From treating insomnia, anxiety, and depression in early recovery to using long-acting buprenorphine injections for opioid use disorder, we explore low-barrier tools that improve safety and adherence—especially vital in the fentanyl era. The goal isn’t to force a path; it’s to create conditions where the next right step feels easier than the last wrong one.

If you’re a parent, partner, or clinician looking for strategies that work in the real world, this conversation offers concrete scripts, mindset shifts, and timing cues you can use today. Subscribe, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest insight—what’s one change you’ll make in your next hard conversation?

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