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Win Today: Your Roadmap to Wholeness

432: Are You Self-Sabotaging Your Growth? Dr. Curt Thompson Unpacks Anticipated Abandonment, Why You’re Startled Lately, Rugged Flexibility, and How Attention Shapes Identity

Mar 19, 2025
01:03:39

What if the way you pay attention is shaping who you’re becoming? What if your deepest fears of being abandoned—whether real or anticipated—are keeping you locked in patterns of anxiety, shame, and self-protection? Today, Dr. Curt Thompson joins us to unpack the profound ways our minds and relationships shape our formation. We’re talking about anticipated abandonment, the neuroscience of attachment, and how to cultivate rugged flexibility in the face of life’s uncertainties. Dr. Thompson, a psychiatrist and expert in interpersonal neurobiology, reveals how the way we focus our attention—consciously or not—rewires our brains and forms our identity. If you’ve ever felt stuck in relational wounds or struggled to trust God and others, this conversation is for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

  • Why anticipated abandonment keeps us stuck in fear and self-protection
  • The neuroscience behind shame and relational wounds
  • How rugged flexibility helps us navigate pain without losing hope
  • Why we become what we pay attention to—and how to shift our focus for transformation

This is a deep, thought-provoking conversation that will challenge how you see yourself, your relationships, and your faith.

Episode Links

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